A few more "rules" for "Joe X"

Ok, so the guy won't be wonderful at times. Haha, I know one thing, I won't hate him upon meeting him. *Grins* Thank God what's-his-face isn't the right one, eh? (What, you think that didn't occur to me? Yeesh.) But you know, that random horrific experience really did teach me something about myself and what I want in a man: He has to be a giving man. He can't be overly selfish for real. Meaning that he has to be someone who naturally is a caring, giving, affectionate person who isn't dependent on others doing what he wants them to do, or being how he wants them to be, for him to take any interest in them at all. Meaning, he can't have rules for other people, he has to be gracious, and he has to put others before himself, think about their wishes and not only his own, and voice his wishes without demanding them. Ok, that makes even this entry title a total hypocrisy. Oh well. That does prove a point though: I have to learn to be that kind of person myself if I want to attract that kind of person. Balanced. Expressing my wishes without demanding them, yet knowing what my own tolerance level is for relationships that are that close, and sticking within those defined parameters for the sake of my own sanity.

I don't think I'm saying that he can never have a bad day. What I'm saying is that even his bad days can't be all that extreme. He's got to be someone who not only remains in control of his actions, but who remains in control of himself as a person inside -- who puts others first, and sees the bigger picture, even when what he wants to do at the moment that isn't so hot is something he could easily choose to do. Just being in control of one's own actions doesn't mean that a person will choose to do the right thing. I'm pretty much waiting for a man who puts others first while not destroying himself at the same time.

I know. Good luck to me, right?

I can't help thinking that there is a man out there like that, one who's still single, who's not been stupid enough to marry a woman out there who's stuck on herself, who only gives in hopes of receiving, who'll throw herself at whoever comes along who shows some interest in her... I say that because I've realized that such women only placate the selfish desires of selfish men. Women who don't give first, but who wait for a man to give to them aren't being selfish, they're being wise. We live in a culture where so many men are so outright selfish that it's not worth it for us women to give first, to show interest first, to do whatever some man wants us to do in hopes that he might give us what we want, affection. What a load of crap. Either a man is affectionate or not, giving or not, etc. And if he's not these things right from the start, F'ing forget it. Forget him. He's not worth it. Let God love him eternally - I say that all us women just let him rot in his own mire. He's not worth wasting the rest of our lives on. The right kind of man will give first, and keep on giving, and respect our wishes at all times, and want us, not the other way around. Ladies, this isn't some beauty contest to see who can most greatly satisfy the selfish desires of some pig with a sexy smile, a great body, money, etc. Why be his slave?

LOL. Feminism. What the hell is it anymore? I have no idea. I do know that I don't need the wrong kind of man. Nor do I "need" the right kind, because he'll never be someone who I'll need to be needy for, haha.

Let the games begin.